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Dead Poets Society (1989) · John Keating

Keating crouches to eye level with a struggling student, head tilted, fully attentive.

Active ListeningBeginner0:24

Williams drops his height to match the student's — a powerful equalizing move. Crouching plus head tilt is the universal I-am-with-you posture. Match the level of the speaker before asking them to open up.

What to observe

Practice Guide (5 steps)

Crouching to Eye Level
STEP 1Crouching to Eye Level20s

Find a chair or a low surface to sit on, or crouch down to match the height of an imaginary person. Make sure your body language is open and inviting as you lower yourself.

Pro tip: Keep your arms relaxed at your sides or resting on your knees to enhance your approachable demeanor.

Head Tilt
STEP 2Head Tilt15s

While maintaining eye contact, tilt your head slightly to one side as if you're trying to understand better. This small gesture should feel natural and inviting.

Pro tip: Practice smooth head movements to avoid appearing stiff, which can detract from your engagement.

Nodding
STEP 3Nodding20s

As you listen to a recording of someone speaking, nod your head gently in response to their points. Ensure your nods are subtle but consistent, showing you are engaged.

Pro tip: Coordinate your nodding with the rhythm of the speaker's voice to create a more dynamic interaction.

Facial Expression
STEP 4Facial Expression20s

While listening, practice maintaining a warm and concerned facial expression. Focus on softening your brows and smiling gently to convey empathy.

Pro tip: Use a mirror to check your expressions and ensure they align with the emotion you wish to convey.

Pausing Before Responding
STEP 5Pausing Before Responding10s

After listening, take a deliberate pause before responding. Count to three in your head to give the speaker space to continue if they wish.

Pro tip: Use this pause to collect your thoughts and ensure your response is thoughtful and relevant.